“Do you remember the story of Bambi, the little deer, and all of his friends in the forest? If you do, you will remember that one of Bambi’s good friends was a rabbit named Thumper. Thumper was about your age. He was a neat rabbit, but he had one problem. He kept saying bad things about people. One day Bambi was in the forest learning to walk, and he fell down. Thumper just couldn’t resist the temptation. “He doesn’t walk very good, does he?” Thumper blurted out. His mother felt very bad and said, “What did your father tell you this morning?” And then Thumper, looking down at his feet and kind of shifting his weight, said, “If you can’t say somethin’ nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” That’s a good piece of advice that all of us need to follow.” ~ Elder Cree-L Crawford
Last Sunday, Kris Aquino went on full autowitter on her showbiz talkshow ‘The Buzz’ and then cried about how unfair it was that people were picking on her and using her against her brother Noynoy Aquino and his campaign to be president. It was right after a segment wherein erstwhile co-host Ruffa Gutierrez said her official goodbyes to ABS-CBN and said that all’s well that’s ends well regarding the issue of her walking out the previous week because of Kris Aquino’s insensitivity.
Boy Abunda, Kris’ much put-upon bestfriend and co-host had turned to Kris and, along with the rest of the audience, expected the latter to give her reaction to what Ruffa had said. Did Kris react? Yes, indeedy! She did, but in full-Kris Aquino fashion, she made everything about her, her woes, and how terrible it was that so many people disliked and even hated her when, in her own words, “Hindi naman ako masamang tao, hindi masama ang pamilya ko!”
So Ruffa’s goodbyes, her fond farewell and her expressions of good will towards Kris were ignored and for the next 10 minutes it was the Kris Aquino show.
Kris Aquino is the most transparent mystery ever, a walking (and talking!) contradiction. She’s supposed to be intelligent, a wide reader, educated at one of the best universities in the country, but she makes the stupidest mistakes ever like admitting to all and sundry that she contracted a venereal disease from a former live-in partner. She may not be a good actress and to see her efforts leaves one with tingling teeth (nakakangilo siya) and the taste of something slightly sour in the mouth, but to her credit, she tries very hard and you can’t help but appreciate it. She could’ve used her gifts to live a more worthwhile life, devote her time to more worthy pursuits, but she chose show business where she does very little to improve the industry and how the public views it.
Now she’s back on the campaign trail for Noynoy and it’s quite, quite annoying the way the tv networks are covering her participation in the sorties. Kris Aquino makes news and she’s always in the news, and you wonder — aren’t there more important things the media can cover? This is a woman so self-absorbed that she doesn’t see it when she’s hurt someone’s feelings– nevermind that the person is seated not four feet away from her.
This is a woman who is so self- obsessed with herself that she produced a magazine and named it after herself, its contents are on what she wears, where she travels, what she likes to eat, what she does on her spare time. This is a woman who, despite her intelligence, fails to understand that there is something innately wrong with the way she often talks to and about people: she cuts them off in mid-sentence, she makes personal (read ‘insulting’) comments about what they’re wearing, how their hair looks, etc.
I suppose everyone has the right to live their own life the way they want to when they’re not really hurting anybody (unless you think feelings count very badly). Kris Aquino is the way she is because the people around her tolerate her and love her all the same so she never learns her lesson that, sometimes, it’s necessary to shut up and be circumspect. That it’s plain good manners to let others finish their sentences before she jumps in and gives her own opinions. That’s it’s not always necessary to connect the experiences of others to her own experiences and run away with the story buy turning it into her own. She’s the Queen of Talk, alright; but she’s nowhere near being like Oprah Winfrey: Ms. Winfrey actually listens to her guests; Kris can barely pay attention to them. She says she is only being true to herself– perhaps it would be best she assess how she is because being true to oneself does not justify frequent bad behavior.
When her mother died, I felt sorry for her. I thought the experience would change her, make her calmer somehow, less tactless. But it didn’t. A few short weeks after Mrs. Aquino’s death, Kris went on her usual shrill, tactless and rude self on tv. When slighted, however, she weeps and reminds people that her father was shot on the tarmac and her mother had recently passed away and that she is “not a bad person really” and that she “loves this country.”
Is it me or is it sign of desperation on the part of the Liberal Party and standard bearer Noynoy that they’ve enlisted Kris for their campaign? She’s a crowd-drawer, alright; but truth were told, the hordes who love her have their equivalent number among those who despise her and wish she’d shut up. Maybe Noynoy thinks that by having Kris take the frontlines in his sorties would distract people from asking him about the Hacienda Luisita mess and his inconsistencies regarding how the issue will be settled (see the New York Times story on the same quoting his cousin Fernando Cojuangco that they would never give up the hacienda; his sister Ballsy, Viel and Pinky’s outrageous statements that the farmworkers are spoiled).
PS why was I watching ‘The Buzz?’ I was trying to distract Miko and I turned on the tv. And Boy Abunda is a really good host and he gives dignity to the program because he treats the guests with respect and asks interesting questions (as interesting as showbiz questions go).